Perfectionism is the voice of the oppressor. - Anne Lamott
I didn't exactly know who Anne Lamott was. I thought she was an author. I decided to do an internet search and check her out. Sure enough, she is and has written several books. Novels and non fiction as well.
I was looking for some little quote on perfection after reading Jennifer's blog. I can remember there was a time I thought I had to do everything perfectly. It is still something I fight.* Well, actually if I lived in a bubble, I wouldn't care. I would be out there trying all kinds of silly things. I just don't want someone else telling me it is wrong. Or even thinking inside thier own head it is wrong. If it is wrong to me, I will know and change something, or not. It is my experience.
That is part of what all the stuff I do with the dogs is all about. I know we are not perfect, but I am going out with them and having fun. It is not as important to me to get high in trial or best of breed (although that would be terrific) as it is for the dogs and me to have a good time and respect each other when we are coming out of the ring. I still need to have a conversation with Kula on this part of our time together trialing. Sometimes she thinks it is all about control....she is a terrier after all....and she thinks she is the alpha...she might be! Control, hmmm. There is another topic for a blog!
*This is possibly why I get so upset when Greg tries to "coach" me. I am out there for the experience and it is okay if it isn't quite right yet. It is HUGE that I am even out there at all. I will figure it out.
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"If it is wrong to me, I will know and change something, or not. It is my experience." I loved that mom. That's exactly how I feel! You have certainly allowed me the freedom of this in our relationship. Although I still feel the invisable tug of always wanting to please you and wanting your approval...I've learned to be be true to myself and my experience-thanks to that freedom.
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